Exposing a Backstabbing Friend’s Secret Blog Got Him Fired as an RA One Month Before Classes Started
College is supposed to be a fresh start, but for one student, her biggest hurdle turned out to be the childhood friend who followed her to campus.
What started as a long-standing friendship quickly devolved into a nightmare of toxic control. As the narrator settled into college life, her long-time pal—referred to as Pat—began demanding total authority over her life choices. Pat routinely flew into rages if she refused to dump her boyfriend, change her major, or abandon her preferred hobbies.
The tension reached a boiling point when the student decided to move off-campus to escape cramped dorm conditions. Pat became strangely obsessed with keeping her in university housing, continually insisting that she belonged in the dorms despite having no reasonable explanation for his demands.
When her off-campus housemates moved away a year later, she began reaching out to local student groups to find a new bedroom to rent. That was when the ghosting began. Group after group would express excitement about rooming with her, set up a meeting date, and then completely cut off contact without explanation.
She was left baffled, unable to understand why her housing leads kept evaporating into thin air.
The mystery was finally solved when she secured a cute two-bedroom house with a new roommate named Desiree. During move-in planning, Desiree casually mentioned that Pat had pulled her aside to issue a dire warning. It turned out Pat had been systematically contacting every prospective roommate he could find, smearing her reputation by painting her as high-drama, unhinged, and filthy.
Realizing her long-time friend had been actively trying to sabotage her housing arrangements and leave her stranded, she decided it was time to level the playing field.
Pat was set to serve as a Resident Advisor for the upcoming school year—a coveted position that provided a free single room and official authority over incoming freshmen. However, Pat also maintained a completely public online diary. A quick look through his public entries revealed detailed, explicit plans to sell illegal drugs and alcohol to the fresh-faced students under his care.
Using a newly created anonymous email account, she sent the direct web link straight to the university's Head of Residential Life.
The administration acted swiftly. Exactly four weeks before the start of the fall semester, Pat was stripped of his RA position. He lost his stipend, his authority, and his private room, leaving him frantically searching for last-minute living arrangements while taking a massive hit to his reputation.
When Pat later confronted her with suspicions, she kept her cool, telling him she simply treated people exactly how they treated her, effectively forcing him to remain silent or confess to his slander.
Public reaction to the story has been overwhelmingly supportive of the cold-calculated counterstrike. One commenter noted that Pat weaponized lies to ruin someone's shelter, making his public blog exposure a classic case of self-inflicted defeat. Another observer pointed out that exposing an RA who planned to deal illegal substances to freshmen was practically a public service for the entire campus community. Meanwhile, some wondered if Pat's controlling behavior stemmed from a pathetic, unrequited crush that turned toxic when he realized he could not control her life.
Our podcast hosts dig into every juicy detail of this campus showdown on the latest episode of Get Even.